Notice about posting comments on this blog

I'm sorry to announce that I've had to disallow anonymous commenting on this blog because some inappropriate and just downright rude comments have been posted lately. If you haven't seen any of these it's because I've been pretty vigilant and have been able to remove them in short order.

The root of all this is the fact that my ex-fiancee has recently discovered my Web site (after untold hours of searching, I'm sure) and has spent the last couple of weeks attempting to contact me via email and by posting comments on this blog. I have tried ignoring her—which she doesn't like, because it makes her feel

                      small

                                    and

                                                                                    insignificant

—but she has even gone so far as to bait me into a dialog on this blog by posting her comments anonymously. (Alas, I had forgotten how, uh, distinctive her eighth-grade writing style is.)

Now, if you knew the circumstances of our past relationship (which I won't get into here) you would understand why I'd want nothing to do with her. Why she would want to insinuate herself into my life again defies any rational explanation. I haven't even seen her in seven years! Is she that egocentric to think that I'd even want to speak to her after the living hell that I endured with her? What's the point anyway? I am happily married to the love of my life, a woman with a bottomless heart who lovingly puts others before herself on a daily basis, which is something my ex doesn't have a clue about.

I'd have thought that, like a "mature" adult, my ex could get on with her life, but apparently that's not the case. She is a twisted, shallow creature, a dweller on life's low road, who derives great pleasure in criticizing and bringing others down as it's the only way she can nourish her pathetic ego. And apparently she is none too pleased that my life has taken a turn for the better and has now turned her attentions to trying to bring me down and even disrupting my marriage by posting comments questioning not only my character but also my sexuality (my wife wasn't impressed, by the way). Now, I suppose all of us artists are fair game in the sexuality department just because we tend to be free thinkers, but my ex really sounds desperate, doesn't she? Anyway, got news for you (and I know you're reading this): it won't work.

(In case the casual reader is wondering, I don't think any amount of psychotherapy or counseling would even make a difference for her at this point. There's just too much baggage there. Plus, being mean-spirited is what she does best, so why would she give it up now?)

Now, I could take the low road and name my ex here and even post her email address to open herself up to some of the abuse that she so thoughtlessly doles out, but I'm not that kind of guy. And believe me, there are several people I know who would just love to get hold of her and throttle her.

So, back to the real reason for this post: to leave a comment on the blog you'll have to sign up first (it only takes a minute). Again, my apologies for having to do this but my hand has been forced. This is not a perfect solution as any undesirables can still sign up with Blogger to leave a comment, although if this happens I can easily get the person banned. (Get the point?)